a cherished woman's guide to loving,
lasting, (and hot-as-fuck) relationships
men court her,
compete for her, and
fight to open doors for her…
she is proposed to,
provided for, and inspires
deep loyalty in her man…
she magnetizes men
and money easily, and she
lives a life of luxury…
she is open,
unbelievably receptive,
and intoxicatingly sweet…
dripping in artistry,
luscious femininity,
erotic beauty…
with a rich and fulfilling
creative life, where she lives
out her soul purpose…
all while being deeply cherished,
well-fucked, and worshipped by
her devoted Warrior King
it’s not a secret, my love.
the erotic aliveness that penetrates her entire life.
(and her willingness to be annihilated
by the cosmic cock of Life)
dying to herself, over and over again…
so that she can birth again
into something alive.
we’re not here for the hot little fling
that dies as the seasons change.
we’re not here for the marriage that
dries up as quickly as the children come.
we’re not here to contort into someone we’re not
under strict dogmatic ‘rules’ of how we ‘should be’.
we’re here for deep, unshakable connection.
we're here for genuine, vulnerable expression.
we’re here for knees-in-the-dirt devotion.
in service of divine union
a journey of repair with mortal men and the holy masculine
aloha, queen.
my name is sufey.
i’m a cum-slurping, booty-shaking, and deeply
Beloved Queen to my King — my husband,
and the father of our two darling children.
and
my saturn (the planet of Time,
limitation, and er, painful lessons) is in
the 7th house of Marriage and Relationship,
which means…
i’ve been through the wringer in my love life.
(and boy do i have a story or two for ya!)
i spent years of my life collapsed on the bathroom
floor weeping about the state of my love life…
unable to understand why i just kept fucking it all up…
why i kept attracting sadistic, unavailable men…
why i couldn’t hold a healthy relationship
no matter how much i thought i desired it…
and why i was unable to have what i really
wanted even after finding a really good man…
i spent years hating men
and blaming them for
the state of my life
before i finally looked the bullet in the eye…
and i was shocked at what i saw.
i was so deeply programmed by the
culture of man-hating and man-shaming
that i completely lost sight of my own deeper Truth.
the truth of Love…
the truth of Devotion…
the truth of érōs…
i wasn’t meant to be a man-hating bitch —
dry-as-a-desert, impenetrable and alone,
with nobody but my own bitter stories
and my self-aggrandizing suffering.
damn, sufey.
i thought to myself one day,
collapsed, once again, and weeping —
you really are addicted to your own drama, aren’t you?
and i had to make a choice to break free.
Sufey Bokman
lover, mother, cherished wife
Happily married to the love of her life, Sufey is a beloved wife, world-schooling mama, and revered teacher of the Feminine Arts. A somatic experiencing practitioner and yoga teacher trainer by trade, she has worked with over ten thousand women in healing their nervous systems, restoring their Aliveness, awakening their purpose, and alchemizing their marriages. She shares scintillating, jaw-dropping stories from her own dark journey of rupture back into full repair with the masculine.
Internationally celebrated for her playful devotion, raw depth of expression, and wildly creative essence, Sufey curates deeply loving communities for feminine practitioners on their journeys of erotic awakening. With eighteen years of experience guiding yoga teacher trainings, plant medicine ceremonies, and soma to soul energy healing across the world, Sufey weaves joy, hope, story and spirit into the journey of érōs.
What I loved most about érōs is your authenticity and your ability to teach from a human level. I did not feel like you were on a pedestool and I am trying to climb. I felt for once, I got permission to just be me- with my mistakes, my emotions, my duality. I just loved that you were yourself and raw and real. That was everything to me.
I knew it was going to change my life and it did and it’s just the start. Thank you for the affordable price. I see so many coaches charge so much and barely give value. Thank you for your codes, wisdom, groundedness, teachings, shares, stories, and everything in between. I am so deeply grateful!! and excited!!!! Now I know why I was so pulled to you & this course.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I feel changed, yet feel so tender, raw, vulnerable, lost, sad, confused yet clear. This was life changing for me, its like I am finally looking at parts of me I have been avoiding & numbing.
— Alexandra Larouche | Ontario, Canada
Wow where to even begin!
Everything offered in érōs was so rich and deep, like layers and layers of wisdom and knowledge being shared in such clear and understandable ways. I loved getting to listen and absorb the replays.
I know when I saw érōs advertised that I just needed to sign up. I wasn't even sure exactly what I was going in for or what would come from it but I knew it was the right time for me. And it 100% was in so many more ways than I could have imagined. I am sure I will be digesting and integrating this for quite some time.
I felt it cracked open my self awareness to another stage, also how different men and women are and how much I've been approaching my relationship from my masculine. I also feel I can see so much more what my partner brings to this relationship (if I can allow myself to receive it!)
I loved how warm, understanding and clear Sufey’s advice and support is. I felt deeply heard, safe and supported.
I found it so helpful to hear different women’s questions and life stories along with how this work specifically relates to their situations. I'm just so thankful for this whole experience, I know it will be one that just keeps on giving.
— Kalina Suter | Edinburgh, Scotland
During my time in érōs, I was led back to a relationship with God. I finally let go of a man who's not the one. I found appreciation for the masculine. I finally understand the role of wife.
All of my relationships with men have improved, including with my son. My relationships with women are starting to improve as well… I have been coded with a deep understanding of érōs.
I love Sufey’s energy, and the way she explains concepts. And her slides are GORGEOUS! I follow other feminine embodiment teachers but with Sufey I just have an immediate YES - because I just get what she says and the way she teaches, so for me there's nothing more I would want/ask for.
I loved listening to the other women's stories and questions and working through things live on the calls.
The most powerful thing for me has been SEEING (literally) devotion, eros, nervous system practice IN ACTION. The energy everyone brought not just what they were saying was powerful encoding. I loved it all!
— Abigail Lo | Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
this journey is most definitely not for you if…
⟢ you are addicted to your own painbody — and you’re not willing to break free from your own looping stories.
⟢ you hate men, you ‘don’t need no man’, and you’re perfectly fine being single and alone for the rest of your life.
⟢ you don’t believe you have any agency over your life, and you prefer to cycle in perpetual victim mode, moaning about how life isn’t fair to you.
⟢ you aren’t willing to look at some deep and hard truths — and dive to the depths of your own shadows, blind spots, and deeper programming.
but if this touches a layer of truth in you…
⟢ you are willing to devote yourself to the deeper harmonics of embodied M/F energetics (and a lifelong quest of relational mastery).
⟢ you desire to be deeply cherished, treasured, pleasured, and— dare i say— worshipped by your man as you find God in Him.
⟢ you trust, or are willing to trust in, your co-creational prowess, and desire support in catalyzing and grounding your reality.
⟢ you are ready to claim your place as the exquisite, enchanting, and deeply Beloved leading lady in your érōs-dripping Soul Union.
is your birthright, Beautiful One.
if i can heal on this journey, so can you.
if i can have the marriage of my dreams, so can you.
if the ten thousand women i’ve worked with can
journey back home to their joy, their érōs,
and their aliveness… so can you.
